As a working mom, leaving your child with dad, grandparents, or a daycare is often unavoidable. Everyone says it gets easier, but honestly, it hasn't for me. Whether it's the cozy familiarity of grandparents or a well-run daycare, parting with your baby challenges every maternal instinct. Who can care for them quite like you?
Struggling too? Here's the truth from my experience: you never fully get used to leaving your baby behind, no matter what the 'experts' claim. As a mom who's been through it, I can tell you—it's a lifelong tug at the heart.
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After six months, I'm still not accustomed. My daughter started daycare at 3 months old, three days a week, with only two weeks of vacation and occasional orthopedic check-ups for her hip dysplasia. She thrives there—smiling at teachers, playing happily, eating and sleeping well. She's completely settled.
But for me, it doesn't matter if it's my husband, a friend, or daycare. I miss her all day long. That empty feeling lingers, even as I stay focused at work. A quick photo, a WhatsApp from my husband on his day off, or a call to the nursery helps immensely.
Quitting work isn't an option for me, so here's what works: Choose trusted childcare. Hide your tears until they're out of sight—don't let your stress transfer to them. Kids pick up on it and may struggle more with goodbyes. The goal? Ensure they're happy, whether with grandparents or quality daycare.
I'm thrilled with our nursery; my daughter has a solid routine. After two months, the guilt faded. I no longer feel like a bad mom or worry constantly. Yet, dropping off my little one—and even leaving her—still tugs at my heart, though reuniting is pure joy!
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