As a mother who's navigated full-time work and family life for years, I recently read an article in De Telegraaf titled "I Will Stay at Home with My Children." It shares the story of a young woman reflecting on her childhood challenges because her mother prioritized her career over family. Her poignant account is filled with uncertainty and sadness.
The woman's plan is clear: work until 30, have at least two children, then become a full-time stay-at-home mom. Once her youngest starts school, she'd return to work no more than two days a week, always available during school holidays.
This vision sounds idyllic, especially if you can make it reality. But life often brings surprises. Many women want to stay home but must work to make ends meet financially. What if the right partner doesn't appear, or a relationship ends in divorce?
Having a clear vision for your future is empowering—it gives purpose. However, dismissing the idea that work and motherhood can coexist feels overly absolute. The young woman questions whether working moms truly become better mothers or if their children agree.
At 22, she's still early in life's journey, and much remains to be discovered. From my experience as a parent, there's a wide spectrum between full-time stay-at-home parenting and constant absence. Every child is unique.
Part-time work offers real benefits: stimulating conversations with colleagues, professional growth, and extra income for family experiences that might otherwise be out of reach.
After school, children often crave time with friends, and many working moms arrive home shortly after. As a stay-at-home mom, you might enjoy that afternoon tea solo! 😊
Balancing it all isn't easy—I work full-time while being deeply involved in my children's lives. Extremes rarely serve families best: constant absence deprives kids of connection, but perpetual presence might limit their independence.
What’s your ideal vision of motherhood?
