Hey there, fellow mom—yes, you! Do you ever truly pause to reflect on yourself? Not just a quick glance in a shop window or your rearview mirror during the school run. I mean a deep, honest look. Are you in tune with your own feelings? Are you nurturing your personal growth? What do you truly want from life?
As a mom of three school-age kids, I recently held up that mirror to myself—and it was a wake-up call.
I stared at my reflection and noticed the exhaustion etched in new wrinkles around my eyes. When did those appear? Time flies with three energetic kids draining every ounce of energy. Six days a week, I'm shuttling to sports clubs and swimming lessons, plus helping with homework, navigating first crushes, flu outbreaks, scrapes, and sibling squabbles. Amid the whirlwind, where did my own dreams and ambitions go?
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Don't misunderstand me—motherhood was my lifelong dream, right up there with becoming a vet, obstetrician, or neonatologist (none of which panned out). Life took its turns, and now I'm mom to three sweet, beautiful, mischievous, and occasionally exasperating kids who get right under my skin. My biggest wish came true—how incredible is that? Yet, something still feels off.
We're all more than just moms. We have our own dreams, desires, strengths, and limitations. Yes, we have responsibilities to our families, but don't we owe it to ourselves too? Nurture yourself first, and you'll be better equipped to care for others. It's like the airplane safety demo: secure your own oxygen mask before helping your child.
That literal mirror moment was confronting. I'd aged noticeably, but what had I done for me? My dreams lingered untouched while I prioritized family. I worked part-time, but was it fulfilling? For passions I craved—like courses or trips with my husband or girlfriends—I had endless excuses: 'Too expensive,' 'No time,' 'Too tired.' Every obstacle imaginable stood in my way. That said, I love managing our family chaos. I just crave more space for myself. Sound familiar?
I was never set on being a high-powered career woman, but I admire the drive. Recognition for my talents would feel great. To chase my goals, I need to invest in myself—through education, travel, or quality time. 'Make time!' I tell myself. That's why I admire how Joyce balances it all.
I'm committing now: time for my ambitions and dreams. Until I can say, 'Mirror, mirror on the wall—my dreams, ambitions, and family thrive together.'
