Everyone achieves success in their own way—whether by bootstrapping harder or leveraging the right connections at the right time. For me, it came down to something I once dreaded: networking. After relocating to a new town where I knew no one, building relationships became essential if I wanted to thrive.
Over time, my fear evolved into enthusiasm. I not only reaped the benefits of networking but started enjoying it, even helping others connect through luncheons and speaking engagements. Eight years later, I've built a fulfilling full-time career from the ground up. It required proactivity, stepping out of my comfort zone, confronting fears, and showing up consistently.
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We often fall into analysis paralysis, thinking we're "too young" or "opportunities are scarce." Instead, start where you are. Here are proven tips from my experience to forge connections today for tomorrow's success:
1. Be curious. You'll encounter diverse people this way.
Many limit their potential by comparing themselves to others—comparison truly steals joy. Approach opportunities with curiosity, and you'll uncover hidden doors and remarkable people. Stay open-minded, release comparisons, and explore new worlds.
My motto: Channel your inner curious child, and creative dreams follow. As a kid, I dove into band, choir, basketball, and theater to experience life's breadth. It boosted my energy, creativity, and emotional health, introducing me to lifelong friends.
Today, I try something new monthly—rock climbing, skydiving, simulated flight lessons. These adventures spark connections, some with influencers who guide you toward success.
2. Be coachable.
Feedback can feel like criticism, especially from strangers. But coachability unlocks opportunities. You don't need to agree—just stay open. In my experience, it builds bridges faster than anything else.
I honed this as an eighth-grade science teacher, facing unfiltered student input on everything from lessons to appearance. After two years, I embraced it, turning feedback into growth. This led to mentors and mentees who propel me forward.
Coachability takes practice and facing fears like being wrong or vulnerable. In class, I shared personal stories, inviting feedback and shaping my best self.
3. Get ready to connect.
Fact: Nobody loves networking—it's often seen as transactional. Yet, to succeed, embrace authentic connection. Suspend judgments and preconceptions.
In my new city, I committed to meeting 100 people in 100 days. Here's what worked for professional and personal wins:
First, schedule one-on-one meetings—coffee, lunch at a local deli, or dinner in a cozy spot. I start with known contacts and ask for referrals. Weekly habit: My network grows exponentially.
Second, volunteer. It's a quick path to influential people—join committees, counsel camps, nonprofit clubs, church events, or host fundraisers. Connections abound.
Finally, mentor or be mentored flexibly—a quick coffee, call, or scheduled check-ins. Knowledge flows both ways.
Our networking drive may start selfishly, but help others too. Introduce Evelyn to Jaime for potential synergy—they'll remember you, strengthening your bonds.
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